Do you say "yes" or "no" to the possibilities?

I had meetings with 2 very different women today. One that says "yes" to opportunities that come her way and another with a woman who's immediate response to any idea is "no" or who will take on the work (because it won't be her, is implied.) The first meeting was full of information sharing, general collaboration, hope and moving forward our mutual agendas. The second was hard to get through. It was as if our work together was useless and didn't matter. Which was not at all the case. Like pulling teeth.

I know which of these two women I want to follow and is a leader.